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Putting Out Fires Before Burning Bridges


By Carolyn Dale Newell

”Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath,

Ephesians 4:26 NKJV

I hate confrontation, but her web of lies and deceit could not continue. Instead of responding with repentance, she hurled verbal assaults attacking my morals. My flesh came up with good artillery to shoot back, but I thought better. For once, I submitted to the Spirit with love and self-control, as I ended the conversation.

Was I still angry? Yes, but I did not sin. Did it guard the relationship? Perhaps, but it definitely gave me a clear conscience. Looking back on that day, there are no regrets.

When the sparks of anger arise, we can employ the “Stop, drop and roll” technique we learned as children in case of fire. It seems to work as well with the flames of anger.

Stop, pause and be silent. Drop the words of retaliation on the tip of your tongue. Roll, as they say, with the Spirit. Allow love to take precedence. Let gentleness emerge from your lips rather than harsh words which can never be taken back. Extinguish the flames of anger by expressing the fruit of meekness and love.

When we get mad, we have a choice. We can choose to react in the flesh, or we can choose to respond in the Spirit. When we walk in the flesh, we allow Satan to have a victory, and we dishonor our heavenly Father. When we walk in the Spirit, we please God, resist the devil, and send him running. The emotion of anger is not sinful, but the choices we make can be. As with all fire, we must make sure no spark remains to reignite. We must not allow any bitterness to take root. Speaking kindness into a volatile situation may not preserve the relationship, but it will protect us from sin’s ugly shame. Follow the Spirit and choose obedience.

Dear heavenly Father,

It is difficult in the midst of anger to act in a manner which pleases You. My flesh wants to lash out and go on the defense. Help me remember to Pause choosing my words carefully. Only allow the right words to come to mind. Thank You for forgiving my fleshy choices and for guiding me to Spirit-filled ones. Amen.


Read Ephesians 4.


What are some spiritual choices you can make the next time you find yourself in a dispute? Prepare a few well-chosen statements to recall in the moments you pause before speaking such as:


  • I love you, and I refuse to argue with you.”
  • “I understand that is the way you perceive things, but I feel…”


Copyright 2016 Carolyn Dale Newell.


Beauty: It Isn’t Skin Deep


By Carolyn Dale Newell

Do not let your adornment be merely outward – arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel – for rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.

1 Peter 3:3-4 NKJV


Beauty is only skin deep. Really? Not so, according to the Bible. True beauty comes from within – “the hidden person of the heart”.

Inner beauty is “very precious in the sight of God”. It is also very pleasing to a godly man. Peter tells us that true beauty is a gentle and quiet spirit. This characterizes a woman who yearns to please God. Proverbs 31:30 reminds us that “Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.”

The woman who fears the Lord is concerned more about holiness rather than wrinkles. She spends more time serving God than coloring her roots.

That is not to say we just let ourselves go, but we are prioritizing here. We still want to look good for our hubbys and maintain a healthy weight.

Peter explains that we need to go beyond our outward appearance, right to our character. As time marches on, we realize our physical beauty fades. Although the outward beauty is corruptible, a woman’s inward beauty is incorruptible. Actually, a godly woman grows more beautiful with time as she grows in grace and knowledge of the Lord.

Esther was the most beautiful woman in her land, but she is remembered most for the way she saved her people. She is a portrait of strength, courage, and patience. She risked her life to ask the king to spare the lives of the Jews. Ladies that is what we want to be remembered for. We want to be viewed as a godly, spirit-filled woman, not a beauty queen. Let’s discover the beauty secrets hidden within the pages of Scripture.

Lord, help me concentrate on my inner beauty more than my outward appearance. Enable me to live a holy and blameless life drenched with grace. Amen.


Read 1 Peter 3:1-6.


When you look in the mirror, do not look at your reflection, but concentrate on your beautiful characteristics which are not visible in a mirror.

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Copyright 2016 Carolyn Dale Newell.